Let’s talk about hate. Most bloggers and persons on social media will tell you that they don’t let hate get to them and that they simply ignore it. But for me, at the beginning, it wasn’t that simple. Within the last few weeks I have been receiving more hate than usual. Me being the emotional and sensitive person I am, I let it get to me. I let it bother me until I would start crying.
And yes, while I am an emotional person and it may bother me way more than it probably should, I’m positive that I’m not alone. Receiving hate is never something pleasant, it leaves you with this sense of negativity. The feeling that you aren’t good at what you do (in my case, blogging). It makes you want to quit.
But why let the haters win? Why give them the satisfaction of hurting you? It took me a while to realize this. But now that I have, the hate no longer bothers me. Instead, I reply to hate comments with a pleasant remark or simply just ignore them. Because after all, I don’t need that kind of negativity in my life.
For me, most of the hate comes when I do a post about Veganism…surprise surprise right? Receiving horrible comments on these types of posts no longer affects me. Instead, I remind myself that I am an activist for a reason. That I am a voice for the voiceless. And that what I’m doing is in fact making a difference.
With all of that being said, let’s not confuse hate with constructive criticism. Among the horrible and outright rude hate comments I usually also receive constructive criticism. This is always welcomed, and although may be eye opening and a bit shocking at times, it’s a good reminder that there’s always room for improvement. Not all criticisms are hate.
Despite the hate, there are those who continuously support me and who have been there from the very beginning. You know who you are. Thank you :). I wouldn’t be where I am today if it wasn’t for your support. To those who send me emails or direct messages with pleasant remarks, thank you. You all are the reason that I still do what I do.
It is important to look at the positive. The positive feedback, the feeling of joy you get when someone tells you your posts have helped them, all the positives. And although sometimes one negative comment seems to outweigh all of the positive ones, ignore it. Don’t let the haters bring you down, otherwise they win. And we wouldn’t want that right?
Personally, I blog because it’s something that I really enjoy doing. I love writing posts and getting feedback (when positive) and everything in between. I use my blog as a way of expressing myself and helping others and would never do it just for attention, as believed by some people. It’s really something that I enjoy doing and I’m beyond grateful that I have a platform that I can use to really make an impact on the lives of others.
I’ve learnt to use the hate as motivation to keep going and it pushes me to do better and prove the haters wrong. I’m proud of how far I’ve come and my only regret is not realizing what I know now, sooner.
Remember, don’t let anyone stop you from doing what you love. No matter what it is, you do what you enjoy and what makes you happy 🙂
If there is anyone having a hard time dealing with hate of any kind, feel free to contact me. My inbox is always open 🙂