It’s okay to stain your pillow with tears, crying yourself to sleep at night. It’s okay to listen to depressing music that will make you even sadder than you were before. It’s okay to play scenarios over and over and over in your head, wishing there was a different outcome or happier ending. It’s okay to be sad and to reminisce because that’s the only time you feel some bit of happiness.
It’s okay to not be okay.
You are human. This feeling of sadness and feeling like your life is not going as planned, it’s normal. It’s normal to have bumps in the road. How you control these feelings is what’s important.
So allow yourself to cry, allow yourself to talk it through with your friends. That’s how you heal and how things get better. When you’re asked if you’re okay or how you’re doing, your go-to response may be “I’m okay” or “I’m doing fine”. You may use this instead of expressing how you really feel to save yourself the time. To save yourself the heartache of having to explain why you are not okay. But it’s okay to talk about it and to pour your heart out to those who will listen. Sometimes we need to talk about it, not just for the advice we’ll receive but also to just get it out of your system.
And when you are ready to do so, you can begin finding ways to take your mind off of it. Ways to get back to your normal happy self. One day you will wake up and feel as though a weight has been lifted off of your shoulders. You forget about everything that made you sad and hurt and it no longer even crosses your mind.
Pick yourself back up, learn from your mistakes and move on.
And don’t forget;
Take as much time as you need.
This week’s post was a bit more personal than my typical posts but I felt like it’s a message that I needed to share. Reading messages like these always help me when I’m having hard time.
If you need someone to talk to, I’m all ears!