Welcome back! It’s Blogmas day 7 and today we’re switching things up a bit. I’ve invited the ever so lovely Wadad Carter from Mommy of All Trades to share her top tips for surviving the Holidays with kids. So let’s jump right into it.
Sleigh bells ringing, the scent of firs, gingerbread, and cinnamon fill the air, beautifully decorated displays, the sounds of holiday music fills the void, and then there’s the stress. As parents, the amount of stress we are subject to is exhausting during the holidays. We drive ourselves to be the best we can be on a daily basis but the stress of the holidays can be overwhelming so here’s your guide to surviving the holidays.
1. Enjoy the season
I know, everywhere we turn we’re told to live in the moment and enjoy our children and as a parent, I am aware of the hypocrisy of this statement. But take a moment. Take a deep breath and hold on to that moment where your kid looks like an angel in front of the Christmas tree, your kids are playing nicely with each other, or your house resembles the palace it used to be before you had kids for just a minute.
2. Say No
it is 100% ok to say no. You don’t have to go to every single Santa visit, every single playdate, or every holiday event. You need to remember that the schedule you have worked all year to establish with your children DOES NOT need to be thrown to the wayside to please each and every person who reaches out to you.
3. Stick to your guns
when you say no stick to that no. Don’t let people pressure you to go to events or plan things you don’t want to. Just cause your kid is asking for the same toy for the nine hundredth time doesn’t mean you should buy it; stores put toys front and centre to make the appeal to children unrealistic. Go ahead and prepare yourself for the tantrum before you walk into the store.
you know that cousin that you don’t ever talk to or see, the one you’ve bought a Christmas present for every year and only see around the holidays? It’s ok to reach out and tell them that you’re not coming to that holiday party or exchanging gifts with them this year — honestly, they’ll probably be as thankful as you are to be rid of some of the obligations they find themselves bound to. It’s important to keep within your budget; don’t go crazy trying to buy a ton of gifts when the best gift you can give is time.
I know your kids want that new shiny toy but I can tell you with about 98% confidence that they will survive if you don’t get it. We all want to string the moon and the stars for our babies but we have to be realistic, do you really want to pay for that Christmas present well past next Christmas?!?! Can you make gifts for some people on your list (maybe grandma or grandpa need a new ornament you can make using this recipe.
6. Don’t Forget:
It’s essential to remember to take care of yourself and your spouse. It’s so easy getting caught up in all the gifts we want to get our kids that we forgot to make some time or place some effort in our marriage — make sure to make time for your spouse and maybe pick up one or two little things to let them know you were thinking of them, even with all the hustle and bustle of the holiday season. And maybe find someone to watch the kids so you can treat yourself to some coffee in peace, believe it or not, you need a minute to get yourself in order every now and then.
In conclusion, the most important thing to remember is that it’s not about how much money you spend, it’s about how many minutes of joy you have or provide. I would be willing to bet dollars to doughnuts that if you think back to the Christmas’ of your childhood you will realize that most of the time it’s the people who were around, the stories that were told, and the memories that were made that you remember and not the toys that you got. I could be wrong but I do know that those are the memories I hold the closest. This year my gift to myself is bringing the joy and hope of my pre-baby years to Christmas, its remembering to be thankful for all the things we have accomplished as a family this year and remember that every day I am going to strive to be the best mom I can be, better than the one that I was yesterday or the day before, I’ve decided that that’s the best gift I can give myself.
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