Do you know that orgasmic moment of clarity when you get hit with a creative idea and your mind starts running at 1000 miles an hour and you’re like “damn I need to write this down before my mind goes blank in… 10…9…8…”? That was me approximately one and a half minutes ago as I was folding laundry. I encountered a thought provoking situation a couple weeks ago and as my brain often does, the memory was swept to the corner of my brain until just now. So here we go. I was in the presence of a little girl, around 8 years old. She was playing with a kitten who was evidently scared in the moment and her reaction was to tell him “you are a boy… you are supposed to be brave”. In that moment I felt my heart drop as I realized that we have failed as a society. That toxic way of thinking is so deeply ingrained in our society. Even the youngest of generations have that ‘toxic masculinity’ mindset that men must be strong, cannot feel fear and must always but on a brave face.
I felt compelled to write this quick message to all men today, on the last day of men’s health awareness month as the mental health of men globally must be more greatly prioritized. We must teach the upcoming generations to break the stigma. Vulnerability is often seen as a sign of weakness but I think that being vulnerable is a sign of great strength. It takes a certain level of strength to open up to the world and/or those around you. Did you know that over 6 million men suffer with mental illnesses such as depression each year?
All in all, to the men reading this: it is okay to feel emotions, it is okay to cry, it is okay to express true self in all settings- in fact, you should be celebrating your emotions. It’s a sign that you’re alive and facing the ups and downs that life has to offer!
Share this message with the men in your life!
Until next time,